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When it comes to giving a partner a blowjob, you probably have your own preference about what you do when they ejaculate. For some, the idea of swallowing semen, commonly referred to as cum, may be a complete turn-off, for others, they may enjoy the sensation of swallowing.
Semen is a thick creamy substance that exits the penis after a person orgasms. It is made up of sperm and fluid (which is mostly water) and can be swallowed or spat out by a sexual partner, depending on personal preference.
But what happens if you swallow cum? Is it bad to swallow cum? If you’re a swallowing newbie and you want to give swallowing ejaculate a go, we have the information you might need to get you
What does spit or swallow mean?
Let’s start with the basics, what do people mean when they say, ‘spit or swallow’? We’ve alluded to this already, however, it’s likely that they are referring to what you do with your partner’s semen once they orgasm during oral sex.
Sex is different for everyone, and we all have different desires and turn-ons when it comes down to it. For some, the idea of swallowing semen is a big no go, and they may prefer spitting into a tissue or the toilet. Some may not even entertain the idea of having ejaculate in their mouth and may want to finish the blowjob by stimulating their partner with their hands as they orgasm. Their partner may prefer to ejaculate elsewhere on their body, such as on the chest.
For others, swallowing sperm may come naturally to them, they may enjoy the experience and the intimacy it provides with their partner.
Is it better to spit or swallow?
Again, this really comes down to preference, and this applies to both you and your partner. If you really don’t like the idea of having semen in your mouth, then you are likely going to want to avoid having your partner orgasm in your mouth at all.
For some, it’s a real turn-on swallowing their partner’s semen and so it may be the perfect way to conclude things.
It’s always worth discussing it with your partner what their preference is too. If they love the idea of you swallowing sperm after an amazing blowjob then it could be a great way to build intimacy and improve the experience for them.
If you’re not sure whether you’ll like the effect of swallowing cum, but want to try, let your partner know. Keep their ejaculating penis in your mouth for a second to two, before pulling out – you can always pull away earlier if you change your mind.
Is it safe to swallow semen?
As with all things sex-related, sexually transmitted infections (STIs) should always be a consideration. If your partner has an STI you are unaware of, by giving them oral sex and swallowing their semen, you increase your chances of contracting and/or spreading that STI.
For this reason, it’s always preferable to get a full sexual health screen before becoming sexually active with a new partner (they should get one too). If in doubt, you should always use a condom to help protect yourself and your partner.
Most importantly if you are both STI free, swallowing sperm is safe. Semen is largely comprised of sperm and other natural compounds, which are largely harmless upon ingestion. In very rare circumstances, some people might discover that they're allergic to semen. This is also known as human seminal plasma hypersensitivity (HSP).
Can you get pregnant from swallowing sperm?
No, you can’t get pregnant from having oral sex or swallowing sperm. What happens when you swallow cum is that your partner’s ejaculate enters your digestive system, which is a world away from your reproductive organs.
You do still need to be careful with semen, however, as there is a small chance of getting pregnant if you move the sperm from your mouth to your vaginal area. To remove this worry, simply avoid handling the semen and then touching yourself. It’s a good idea to wash your hands after giving them some amazing oral sex, to minimise the risk of transferring the sperm to your vagina.
How to swallow semen
There is no trick when it comes to swallowing sperm, you simply swallow your partner’s semen as you would anything else. There are however a few tips to make things go a lot more smoothly. If you find your partner comes a lot when they orgasm, you may want to swallow their semen in stages.
You may find that they ejaculate quite hard, if this happens when their penile head is at the back of your throat, you may find that the sensation of the semen hitting the back of your throat causes a gag reflex. A great way to get around this is to have them let you know when they are going to come. This should give you time to position the penis to the side of your mouth.
For some, there is nothing better than the sensation of swallowing sperm, but it may be the taste of the semen that is a little off-putting. If this is the case, flavoured lube can really help.
Get you partner to let you know when they are about to come and apply a decent amount of our Sweet Strawberries lube to the penile tip, this way you can enjoy the intimate act with the satisfying taste of cherries to help things along.
In summary
So, is it ok to swallow cum? The answer to that is, as long as you’re safe and comfortable with doing it. Choosing to spit or swallow varies from person-to-person and is entirely up you. Just make sure that you and your partner are STI free before engaging in any risky sexual practises.
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