So, What Is The G-Spot? Is It Real? And What Does The G-Spot Feel Like?

The G-spot is named after a German gynaecologist called Ernst Gräfenberg, who was one of the first doctors to describe the area in 1950 (although the G-spot’s possible existence has been described since the 11^th century).¹ 

Theoretically, the G-spot is a patch of flesh about the size of a 20-cent piece, located around 5–7 cm up inside the vagina on the front of the vaginal wall (the part closest to the stomach). The tissue here might feel different to the surrounding area – a little thicker, ridged, or slightly rougher to the touch – and may plump up when rubbed or when aroused.

What the G-spot really is, and what it does is still under investigation.¹  Some research suggests that it is part of the ‘urethral sponge’: a fleshy cushion of tissue surrounding the female urethra (or ‘pee pipe’, in layman’s terms). ² Other investigations propose that the G-spot is actually incorporated within a much larger structure called the ‘clitourethrovaginal complex’ - or ‘CUV’ for short; they argue that the clitoris isn’t just a little ‘nub’ on the outside of the body, but in fact has internal ‘branches’ or ‘bulbs’ that extend down inside the walls of the vagina, and that it is these that can make the G-spot area feel extra sensitive. ^1,3 Perhaps the ‘G’ in ‘G-spot’ should stand for ‘we’re still G-uessing’!

Is the G-spot real? Well, the G-spot’s true identity and purpose remains unknown.¹  However, whatever the truth is behind this mysterious ‘magic button’, stimulating that point on the vaginal wall might have a big, brilliant, blissful impact on some women.

So, what does the G-spot feel like? You may find that pressing and caressing it feels intensely delicious, and can bring you to climax, sometimes in a way that feels ‘deeper’ and different to an orgasm obtained by stimulating the clitoris alone.

What else does the G-spot feel like? You may find that stimulating the G-spot makes you feel like you’re going to wee, and ‘pushing through’ that initial sensation results in an orgasm.¹  As with so much to do with sex and private parts, everyone is different. If that G-spot feeling does it for you, then that’s A-OK; and if it doesn’t, no sweat. It’s all about enjoying the exploration.

Try exploring with yourself first to find out how to stimulate the G-spot. To find your G-spot on your own, first smooth a pearl or two of lubricant like Durex Perfect Glide onto your index finger, slide it into your vagina, then curl the tip towards your belly button, as though you’re beckoning someone to ‘come hither’. Rub your finger slowly back and forth, side to side, and in circling motions, paying attention to how your insides feel and respond.

If you’re looking for the G-spot you may wonder – what does the G spot look like? Well, it’s probably better to ask – what does the G-spot feel like to you? You might be in the right place if you feel a patch that seems puffier, harder, bumpier or ridged. Insert your middle finger as well, if you like a fuller feeling. You may find you like fairly intense pressure on your G-spot, so as you relax into it, experiment with pressing a little harder in that area. A tapping motion can feel great and may bring you close to a G-spot orgasm. You may also want to try using your other hand to press down on the outside of your tummy, around the ‘mons pubis’, where your public hair starts to grow – this can push on the G-spot from the outside of the body (this is a great trick to use during sex, too!).

Your partner can try to find your G-spot using their hands or a vibrator, as well – the same rules apply about using that ‘beckoning’ gesture, paying attention to tissue texture and experimenting with the speed, pressure and motion of their touch. You could simply lay on your back while they play with you, or give a ‘doggy style’ position a whirl: crouching on all fours while your lover inserts a lubricated finger or toy from behind allows them to easily press forwards and down on that special stretch of the vaginal wall. You may well find yourself crying out “O-M-G-spot!”.

As ever, communication is key: you shouldn’t be afraid to tell your lover if you want them to massage you faster, slower, more softly, or with more intensity. Try encouraging them by combining your requests with some positive feedback, so they don’t feel too disheartened by criticism, e.g., “Ooh, I love that – when you touch me really lightly it’s amazing!’ Both of you should try not to get too frustrated if finding the G-spot is causing a spot of bother; as discussed, this region works differently for different women, and some will naturally find it more mind-blowing than others. The best sex is the sex that works for you, so if you’re both having a good time, consider your mission a success!

It’s also possible to stimulate the G-spot during penetration. Durex Pleasure Me Condoms are designed with ribs and dots for extra stimulation^#. Sex positions like the easy-peasy ‘Raised Missionary’ can help G-spot stimulation – this is just like standard man-on-top missionary sex, except the woman places a pillow beneath her hips or bottom to tilt her pelvis upwards, meaning his penis rubs against that key area… like Aladdin summoning the genie from his enchanted lamp! Sex from behind tends to hit the G-spot well too, especially if she drops the front of her body low while keeping her bottom high in the air. If the woman is on top, facing her lover – the ‘Cowgirl’ position – she may well discover sensational G-spot stimulation if she leans backwards (not too far though, as this can bend his shaft uncomfortably). 

^#Vs smooth condom.

Disclaimer:

This article is for general information only and not intended as a substitute for medical advice.

Always read the label and follow the directions for use. Reckitt Benckiser, Auckland. RB-M-105985.

References:

1. Vieira-Baptista P, et al. Sex Med. 2021;9(5):100435.
2. Jannini EA, et al. J Sex Med 2010;7:25–34.
3. Jannini EA, et al. Nat Rev Urol 2014;11:531–538.