How to give a blow job

Yes, even foreplay needs a little Beforeplay.

No skipping straight to the finale here – take your time and leave them begging for what’s about to come. Try exploring their body with your mouth first, gently kissing their stomach and thighs before finally letting your lips touch the tip of their penis. Now the heat is really on, it’s time to get down to it.

Let’s face it, a dry blow job isn’t fun for anyone involved (and sometimes spit just doesn’t do it.)

Make lube your friend. Most of ours are suitable for oral and means you can both enjoy a smoother sensation without worrying about drying out – you could even add some fun with flavoured lubes. Just squeeze a few drops into your hand and massage it onto their penis, before moving in with your mouth.

No lube? No worries. Keep a little water by the bed and take a few sips to keep your mouth moist. Not only does it make it easier for you, the change in temperature can feel great on their penis and open up a world of different sensations. 

Giving good head means using all parts of your mouth. One tantalising thing to try is licking the whole length of their penis with your tongue broad and flat. If you fancy it, making eye contact while you do this can be a real turn on – it shows you’re enjoying it too.

We know that the head of the penis is the most sensitive area, as that’s where most of the nerve endings are (thanks, biology). So, it’s a good idea to pay some attention here. Try switching between sucking, swirling your tongue around and flicking it lightly.

The thought of going deep can be pretty daunting. But holding the base of their penis with your hand and moving it up and down in time with your mouth can help give the sensation of going deep – without making it uncomfortable for you.  

Blow jobs don’t only have to be about the penis – your hands can add pleasure in other ways too. Try gently playing with their balls, running your fingers up their inner thighs, or pinching their nipples (if that’s their thing. Or yours).

Oh, the dreaded jaw ache.

Don’t worry, pausing for a break doesn’t have to mean ruining the moment. Add a little excitement by coming up for a kiss, using your hands for a bit or try touching yourself – this really is about both of you having a good time.

Yes, keeping a regular rhythm with your mouth can help build to the Big-O, but there’s no need to get bored endlessly bobbing your head up and down.

Why not play around with changing between shallow sucks (with just the tip of their penis between your lips), and deeper ones? You could start with all shallow, then move to a mix of shallow and deep and finish with just deep sucks until they can’t take it anymore.

Lots of people find it a massive turn on to hear their partner making noises while they’re going down on them. Plus, you can create some amazing vibrations by humming a drawn-out ‘mmmmmm’ while your lips are on their penis. Fancy experimenting a bit further? Try holding a small vibrator against your cheek while their penis is in your mouth.

As they get closer to climaxing, you might find your partner thrusts powerfully into your mouth or instinctively grabs your head. If this is a turn off for you, try pulling away and asking them to slow down so you can enjoy it too. If you enjoy it – as you were.

Condoms can add an exciting new sensation to oral – as well as protecting you against STIs. Ribbed and dotted condoms unlock different sensations for both of you, and flavoured ones taste great too.